So, many mamas feel angry when our husbands and partners don't do more around the house and with the kids. Many of us bitch about it, some of us demand change, but many of us just 'suck it up' and do it ourselves. Often this is due to the fact that we live in a society that tells us that's what good mothers do. Don't complain. And some of us feel superior by doing it, so we kind of like it on some level. This becomes especially clear when hubby starts doing more than he has been. My husband has easily been doing his fair share since I started working full-time. I give him major props for that. Now, at times, he actually ends up picking up the slack with the boy and food and cleaning more than I do, which has ruffled my feathers a bit. I hate to admit it, but it's true. I'm fine with him doing his half, but when it creeps into more than that, I start to think I'm being a bad mother. Funny though, that few men think they are being a bad father by doing less than an equal half. Society doesn't tell them they are bad fathers if they do less. We need to listen for the messages we're being fed. It's okay for my husband to do more than half sometimes.
This is the blog inspired by my new book STUNNED: The New Generation of Women Having Babies, Getting Angry and Creating a Mothers' Movement. It's a blog for moms who are mad about the many lingering inequities in our society, and in our homes.
I am a journalist, author, feminist and mother living in Seaton Village, Toronto. I work outside of the home at a public television station producing content on developmental and educational issues related to children. I'm also the author of four books, including Stunned, The Secrets of Skinny Chicks, Nine Months Strong and Run For It. I just ran my 8th marathon. I am also the mother of the coolest little Indiana Jones fan who ever rocked the second grade.